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Have you ever stopped to notice just how extreme your mind can be? There is a constant voice inside your head. It comments, judges, compares, predicts, worries, remembers and imagines. And remarkably, it rarely stops talking. Michael Singer affectionately calls this voice "your roommate." Imagine living with someone who follows you everywhere, commenting on everything you do from the moment you wake until you fall asleep. They have an opinion about every person you meet, ever

It's a curious thing about being human. Most of us already know exactly what isn't working in our lives. We know the habit that's harming us, the relationship that's draining us, the boundary we need to set, the truth we need to speak. We know we should be taking better care of our health, and we know what no longer serves us. And still, we don't change. Why do we keep doing what we know isn't good for us? Why do we wait until life forces our hand? Perhaps it's because the pa

Hiding feels like protection. And for a while, it works. But what we keep hidden has a way of growing. It grows slowly, underneath the surface, in the stories we tell ourselves about who we are and whether we deserve to be loved. Shame is like that. It convinces us that if people really knew us, they'd leave. That there's something fundamentally wrong with us. Something we are. And so we hide. We hide our mistakes, our struggles, our fears. The parts of ourselves we've decide

In my previous article, I wrote about Michael Singer's teaching on keeping an open heart, particularly when the people we love live far away. Many of you responded, and what came through clearly was this: we understand the concept. What we want to know is how. How do we actually stay open when our hearts ache? When we miss someone, sadness naturally arises. That's not something to fix, it's a reflection of love. In many ways, the ache is evidence of the richness of the relati

There are few things more bittersweet than saying goodbye to the people we love. Goodbyes at airport gates never seem to get any easier. The sting of a missed birthday, a family gathering viewed through a screen, or hearing about an important milestone from thousands of miles away can linger for days. When oceans and time zones separate us from family, the physical absence is deeply felt. And yet, there is something important that these moments can teach us. Michael Singer of

True transformation begins internally. The movement upward in the building is inner work. That inner work is deeply connected to the three dimensions of our being: Body. Mind. Heart. These three dimensions work together in unison. They are interconnected. One continuously affects the other. If one dimension is neglected, the others weaken too. It’s like driving a car with one flat tyre. The journey becomes difficult, uncomfortable, and draining. You may still move forward, b

Can you imagine a boat moving through the water with heavy weights and anchors hanging from both its bow and stern, deep beneath the surface? You cannot see them, so you are unaware they are there. Yet the more weight attached to the boat, the slower it moves. The journey becomes hard, heavy, and painfully slow. And perhaps this is how many of us move through life. We continue the journey unconscious of what is really holding us back. Life can begin to feel sluggish, frustrat

So last week I introduced he idea of the 10-storey building, but how do we move up the levels to a better view, a different level of consciousness, and ultimately a more meaningful life? What work is necessary to get there? First, we need to become aware of where we are and where we want to be. What needs to change? Remember: Nothing changes if nothing changes. It’s very much like using a GPS. Before beginning the journey, you first enter your current location and then your d

Transformation is often mistaken for change. But they are not the same. Change is external. It’s when we change our job, adjust our diet, follow a new routine, or try something different in our lives. Transformation is something else entirely. It is internal. Subtle. Energetic. A shift in consciousness. It’s not always visible to others… and sometimes, not even to ourselves at first. Transformation is the process of becoming more conscious, of seeing more, understanding more,

We often think self-esteem is something we either have or don’t have. Something we magically wake up with one day. A feeling that arrives when life improves, when our body changes, when someone validates us, or when everything around us feels more certain. But what if self-esteem is not simply a feeling? What if self-esteem is a verb? Something we build through action. Through movement. Through showing up for ourselves. Through taking steps in the direction we know we want ou

Do you ever find yourself wondering what it is within you that needs healing? or where to even begin? We all carry something. Wounds, moments of loss, experiences that left an imprint. Some are obvious. Others sit quietly beneath the surface, shaping how we think, feel, and move through life. over time, without even realising it, the weight of it all piles up. The past, the stories, the emotions, It becomes baggage. That baggage can feel heavy. Heavy in the mind. Heavy in the

Why do we fear saying what we truly feel? When someone hurts our feelings or says something that offends us it can feel very difficult and scary to speak up and say how we truly feel. Fear of rejection or abandonment. Fear of conflict, repercussions or punishment. Shame and self-doubt. The pressure of saying the “perfect” thing or risking humiliation or embarrassment. Often, it’s not that we are afraid of speaking, it’s that we are afraid of what might happen after we speak.

There is a kind of freedom that comes when we stop running from ourselves. Not through fixing everything, or getting it all right. Just through facing what is. Accountability and responsibility are often misunderstood. They can feel heavy, almost confronting, as though they require us to carry more. But in truth, they tend to do the opposite. They lighten the load. We All Carry Something Every one of us has moments we wish we could go back and change. Something we said. Somet

Charles Horton Cooley once wrote: “I am not what I think I am. I am not what you think I am. I am what I think you think I am.” Pause for a moment and let that settle. So much of who we believe ourselves to be is shaped not by truth, but by perception - a perception of a perception. We begin to imagine how we appear to others. We imagine their judgement of that appearance. And from there, we form a feeling about ourselves: pride, insecurity, confidence, or shame. Without even

Have you ever had a moment where something happens, and almost instantly, your mind turns inward? A shift in someone’s mood. A reaction you didn’t expect. A situation that feels slightly off. And before anything else, the thought appears: “What have I done?” “It’s my fault.” “Here I go again.” A tightening in the chest. Racing thoughts. A sense of wanting to shrink, withdraw, or disappear. Everything becomes personal. Everything becomes your responsibility. Beneath this patte

Have you ever had the rug pulled out from beneath your feet? One moment everything seems to be going along just fine. Things are looking good. You feel good, grateful, alive. There is a sense that life is flowing. You feel motivated, inspired, full of vitality. A calm inner happiness seems to sit gently within you. And then, sometimes within minutes, everything can change. The wind is knocked out of your sails. One moment you are sailing freely, and the next it can feel as th

Today I would like to share a story from Thich Nhat Hanh with you... You are holding a cup of coffee when someone comes along and bumps into you or shakes your arm, making you spill your coffee everywhere. Why did you spill the coffee? "Because someone bumped into me." Wrong answer. You spilled the coffee because there was coffee in your cup. Had there been tea in the cup, you would have spilled tea. Whatever is inside the cup is what will spill out. When life comes along and

Our minds are remarkably quick to form opinions; about others, about situations, and often about ourselves. Recently we reflected on how easily we take things personally. Perhaps there is another side to quietly observe as well. How often do we find ourselves judging? Not only other people, but circumstances, behaviour, and very often our own thoughts and actions. It happens so quickly that we may hardly notice it: A passing thought. A comparison. A quiet evaluation. A subtl

Have you ever noticed how quickly we take something personally? When someone does or says something that triggers us emotionally, the first thing we often do is turn inward and make it about who “I” am. We question our identity. We feel defensive, upset, judgemental, sometimes even self-righteous, or blaming. And yet, people act from their own beliefs, insecurities, wounds, expectations, fears and personal stories. It still hurts. There is no getting away from that. The hurt

Have you ever stood in a garden and simply paused? Noticed the stillness. The colour. The quiet beauty of something that has taken time to grow. It didn’t rush. It didn’t strain. It didn’t force itself into bloom. It grew because someone tended to it. With care. With awareness. With intention. Your life is no different. And yet, so many women arrive at this stage of life feeling disconnected from their own garden. Some parts feel overgrown — responsibilities, expectations, ro